Oct 13
Coming into Kusadasi

Coming into Kusadasi

Opening the veranda door, I look out onto the tightly packed city of Kusadasi, with the pink of the dawn above surrounding hills. There’s  a tugboat taking our cruise ship into port and I watch it work for a few minutes.  I’m not sure what Turkey will be like, but I’m pretty excited.  Alan and I are here to see Ephesus, the ancient city about 20 minutes from Kusadasi. We have one day.

We meet Ali, our guide, outside the terminal.  I want to confirm the tour price.  ”For you,” he says very seriously, “just sixty four thousand dollars” and then laughs. I feel comfortable. It’s hot, but that’s nothing unusual for Turkey is summer. The memory of walking to school in heat like this in tropical Australia pops into my mind, but I didn’t seem to care so much about the weather then.  Thankfully, our car is air-conditioned and glimpses of Kusadasi reassure me as we inch our way through the streets.  I’m not sure why.  Maybe I expected something akin to the chaos of Asian cities? This is clean, well laid out, with orderly traffic. I feel more comfortable.

The omnipresent roadside souvenir stall, the same the world over, greets us at Ephesus. “Cross the road” says Ali. We dash across, just a bit fearful that a car will appear too quickly for us to get out of the way. Ali deals with the tickets, and we join a mass of people merging to pass through the narrow entry gate.

Ephesus People

Ephesus People

The smaller of two amphitheatres at Ephesus appears in view. Already the scale of this place is clear. The Agora holds piles of small, red clay water pipes, gutters and plumbing remains and the first of many temples and intricately carved arches.  A glimpse of the two story Library Building in the distance now appears, but our eyes are drawn to the people. The cobblestone road is a moving mass of almost solid colour.

Walking down the hill, I hear snippets of conversation in many languages, some loud, some quiet, some bored, some animated. Travel is great for bringing strangers together for a few moments in places like this, all of us drawn to see and feel the power of ancient civilisation.

Ephesus Columns

Ephesus Columns

Currently fascinated – no, obsessed – with ancient columns, I take more photos for my collection.  We enter the Terrace Houses, a new excavation into a hill, its roof a welcome respite from the heat. It costs more money to go in here, and the people in front see the fee and murmur “too expensive, let’s leave” and head outside.

“No”, I want to yell to them, “spend the money, you’ll regret it later if you don’t”.  Just like we regret not spending the money on a side trip to Tibet when we went to China in the 1980s.

Ephesus Terrace Houses

Ephesus Terrace Houses

But, I keep quiet and head up the first flight of stairs into an expanse with houses so well preserved, for once I don’t feel like I’m kidding myself trying to imagine living here in ancient times. A series of metal stairs and platforms keep us moving up and through the ruins. Each level brings a new and wider perspective. We pass houses with murals still colourful, more plumbing, and bathrooms this time, entrance arches and mosaics that make you stop and stare.  Outside again – did I mention it’s hot?

I will leave you here” says Ali.  ”Spend as much time as you want, then walk along the path through the shops and I will meet you in the parking lot”. We nod, and Ali disappears into the crowd.

We stand for a few seconds, and Alan says “Come with me. I want to show you something”.

He takes me back up the hill, weaving through the mass of people to the building that houses the toilets.  He has been here once before, and this is what he remembers?  These communal toilets in a grand building are impressive, with the same amount of attention to detail and structure here as in the surrounding temples and houses.  I feel a sense of personal relief that civilisation has moved on from this particular form of sharing!

Ephesus Library

Ephesus Library

Reaching the Library, I climb the stairs and enter a space that does feel like libraries today. There are fewer people in here, the conversations are quieter and there’s seems to be a quiet reverence happening.

Shade under a porch that separates the library from the main ampitheatre beckons. We squeeze into a space at the side and stare. Buildings today are bigger and bolder, but lack the subtlety and the detail of these structures. Here you can sense a story about the people who built them, what mattered to them and how they lived.  I realise I’m feeling a sense of connection with people past, and I’ll take that with me with we leave. I felt the same at Pompeii, but somehow it’s feels stronger, more intimate here.

The main amphitheatre is big and draws you towards it, but we keep walking. Did I mention it’s hot? On the path leading out of Ephesus, we are stopped by trumpet fanfare. People in Roman costume – soldiers with red flowing cloaks and gold helmets, important men in long flowing white robes, slaves with those large feather fans, and women in bright colours dancing for the men. I take some photos while some sort of ceremony is re-enacted, but feel a sense of unease that this event is too forced, too artificial and somehow detracts from my Ephesus experience.

Suddenly, we return to the present. The path turns into a covered street of souvenir sellers.

“Turkish delight miss?”

“No, thank you.”

“Oh, it’s really good. You must try some.”

“No, really, thank you.”

“Really cheap, just for you.”

“No,” I say, giving him my best ‘I mean it’ glare.  He heads off, only to meet us again a few steps along the street.

“Turkish delight miss?”, he says and looks up.

“Oh, it’s you again”,  he mutters with disgust, spins on his heel and goes to find another tourist.

The selling is intense, every few seconds there is another offer, another bargain. We smile, shake our heads and keep moving. We find a stall where no one seems interested in selling and buy some water. I look at souvenirs but don’t want any. The images and thoughts in my head seem enough.

We emerge into the heat of the car park, find Ali chatting to other guides, and return to Kusadasi. We stop at a bank to get some lira to pay Ali and say goodbye. The town beckons, but it’s hot. We return to the ship.

Kusadasi Sunset

Kusadasi Sunset

That night watching the sunset from the veranda, I decide one day is enough to get a strong sense of Ephesus, but  it’s not enough time to spend in Turkey.

I like this place.

We will be back.

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Oct 12
Bessie bird watching in Royal park
Bessie bird watching in Royal park

Bessie and I dodge cars creeping along Flemington Road. Holding my breath to avoid the peak hour petrol fumes, I remind myself again that traffic is the price we pay to live in the inner city.  It’s  6.30am on a Melbourne spring morning, and I look forward to the sunshine that usually follows the chilly mornings.  Bessie jumps up on my leg, tail wagging, eager to cross the last lane of cars.

Reaching the other side of the road, we enter Royal Park and leave the traffic behind. I free Bessie. She races off, chasing a magpie who swoops down at her incessantly until we move away from their nesting area.  Almost sub-consciously, I smile.

Royal Park Wattle
Royal Park Wattle

I swish through some long grass, content again that after so many years of walking in a park  turned brown from drought, the more normal winter rains this year have have returned the park to a welcoming green.  I see it’s too cold for the homeless man who makes his bed under a clump of shrubs. He will return when the sun is out, sitting on the grass overlooking the oval, watching the world go by, only leaving when it gets cold.  In summer, he is there all the time, hanging his washing on tree branches and reading books.

Passing the wattle trees,  and their vivid yellow flowers, I stop and wait for the city tram to trundle by on tracks that neatly split the park into upper and lower sections.  People walk briskly on criss-crossing paths. Bike riders swing effortlessly around them. Men in yellow safety jackets disappear into the gate in the fence around the building site for the new Children’s Hospital, which has always lived comfortably at one edge of the park, but which has now expanded, taking a large green chunk away from us.

Royal Park view
Royal Park view

I reach the top circuit. The city skyline dominates, but down at eye level, the Victorian terrace houses that line one side of the park and the old church steeple remind me of how well Melbourne merges its history with its present. Up here is like a club, with regulars stopping to chat as their dogs do that sniffing thing and have their own conversations.  I stop when Bessie stops.

“What kind of dog is that?” is a regular question.  ”Border terrier, great dogs, very placid”  I usually reply.  I move on, feeling guilty for only a second that I’m not more dog-obsessed. I do stop to talk with the little old Chinese man who shuffles around the park with the help of a cane every day.

“How are you today?”
“Fine. And you?”
“Great.  It’s going to be a nice day isn’t it?”
“Yes. See you tomorrow”.

And with a flourish of his cane, he’s gone.  I still don’t know his name.

Back down to the lower park, with fewer dogs and more native birds. This is my time for some inner solitude. As we return to the road and to the coming day, I am grateful that Royal Park gives me this space in a city of 4 million. I share the park with homeless men, workers, students and dog lovers and we can each make it our own. Melbourne is good at making you feel at home.

Oct 11
Bessie bird watching in Royal park

Bessie bird watching in Royal park

It’s  6.30am on a Melbourne spring morning, when you suffer the chill to revel in the sunshine that emerges later. Bessie and I are dodging cars doing the peak hour creep along Flemington Road so we can cross to Royal Park. I remind myself again that traffic and the smell of petrol fumes are part of inner city life. Bessie jumps up on my leg, tail wagging, eager to cross the last lane of cars.

Leaving the road behind, I head up the path, and free Bessie. She races off, chasing a magpie who swoops down at her incessantly until we move away from their nesting area.  A smile is unavoidable.

Royal Park Wattle

Royal Park Wattle

After so many years of walking in a park with grass turned brown from drought, the more normal winter rains this year have have returned the park to a welcoming green.  As I round a bend, I see it’s been too cold for the homeless man who makes his bed under a clump of shrubs. He will return when the sun is out, sitting overlooking the oval, watching the world go by, only leaving when it gets cold.  In summer, he is there all the time, hanging his washing on tree branches.  I veer off the path onto the worn short-cut across the grass, past the yellow wattle. I see these trees every day, but I always stop and look.  That colour makes me happy.

I wait for the city tram to trundle by on tracks that neatly split the park into upper and lower sections.  People walk briskly on criss-crossing paths. Bike riders swing effortlessly around them. Men in yellow safety jackets disappear into the gate in the fence around the building site for the new Children’s Hospital, which has always lived comfortably at one edge of the park, but which has now expanded, taking a large green chunk away from us.

Royal Park view

Royal Park view

I reach the top circuit. The city skyline dominates, but down at eye level, the Victorian terrace houses that line one side of the park and the old church steeple remind me of how well Melbourne merges its history with its present. Up here is dog heaven, with regulars stopping to chat as their dogs do that sniffing thing and have their own conversations.  I stop when Bessie stops.

“What kind of dog is that?” is a regular question.  ”Border terrier, great dogs, very placid”  I usually reply.  I move on, feeling guilty for only a second that I’m not more dog-obsessed. I do stop to talk with the old Chinese man who shuffles around the park with the help of a cane every day.

“How are you today?”
“Fine. And you?”
“Great.  It’s going to be a nice day isn’t it?”
“Yes. See you tomorrow”.

And with a flourish of his cane, he’s gone.  I still don’t know his name.

Back down to the lower park, with fewer dogs and more native birds. This is my time for some inner solitude. That Royal Park gives me this space in a city of 4 million is one of Melbourne’s secrets. I share the park with homeless men, workers, students and dog lovers and we can each make it our own. Melbourne is good at making you feel at home.

Sep 08

The door slammed downstairs. I woke with a start. Bessie, our dog, jumped off the bed where she had been nestled next to me, softly snoring the way only dogs can. She knew Alan was back from the gym, and she wasn’t allowed on the bed when he was home.

Opening my eyes, I realised that I had just had the best night’s sleep I have had in a long time: quick to fall asleep, and nothing, not even Alan’s alarm and him getting out of bed an hour earlier, had woken me.  What a great start to the day!

OverwhelmedAs I lay there contemplating getting up, the memory of dragging myself out of bed so many mornings to go to work surfaced. All those mornings when the alarm had gone off, and I’d woken, remembering vividly how many times I had woken that night, and how tired I still felt. Yet I had to get up again, dress, have breakfast, make sure the children were set for the day, and then drive into work for another day dealing with people, problems, and perceptions of what needed to be done now. I felt like I was at the mercy of the next email or the next head that popped around my office door accompanied by “Are you busy? Do you have a minute?” I often said to myself then “I feel so tired”.

Then came the day in November 2007 when I got to work in tears. I had a rather robust discussion with my son that morning and nearly had a car accident on the drive into the office. I shut the door of my office, and said out loud, “I can’t do this anymore”. I emailed by boss, and told him that vague conversation about moving on at some stage over the next few years to set up my own business now had a six month deadline on it. That was 18 months ago.

I now work harder and longer than I did “at work”, but I do that work from home and on my own terms. Today, I got up, had breakfast, dropped my daughter at school because it was raining, said goodbye to Alan, made myself a cup of tea and walked up stairs to my desk to start the day.  Email, a presentation to prepare, and some phone calls to make.

A couple of hours later, I stopped for a break and took Bessie for her daily walk in the park a block from our house. Lunch and a not so furtive glance at an episode of America’s Next Top Model, more work, an online order for a new desk to replace my daughter’s old school desk I inherited and which just isn’t big enough anymore,  a teleconference and then time for dinner, some TV and a final check of the email.

There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about how lucky I am to have this life. People called me brave to leave the security of a salaried job, but I knew in my heart if I didn’t, I would be tired for the rest of my life. Soon, it will be bed time, and here’s hoping for another night where I sleep untouched by the world.

Sep 01

dog how do youYou know how dogs tilt their head when you say something to them that they must not understand? That’s the reaction I invariably get when I tell people I enjoy cruising. “But, isn’t it boring?” they ask.  The next question is “How do you cope being cooped up on the ship?”  or “That’s for old people, isn’t it?”.

I didn’t decide to cruise. I decided I wanted to see the Inside Passage, and the best way to do that was on an Alaskan cruise. I had no idea what to expect, but after that 7 days, I was hooked.  It is difficult to understand the attraction…obsession…addiction of cruising until you give yourself over to the experience.

I’ve now been on three cruises, and am planning our fourth, so yes, I do cruise and I love it. My cruising site, where I keep trip journals and photos, is one sign of my addiction.  Another sign is that I want to give advice on how to cruise, and here are my top five tips for planning a cruise experience.

1. Accept how old you are, and decide what sort of people you want to mingle with on the cruise.  I didn’t want to cruise with people in their 70s and 80s, but I didn’t want to cruise with 20 year olds either – sadly,  I can’t party any more as my brain complains too much for me to deal with now. Do your research online on the cruise lines, and find one that looks as though it will match your needs – contrary to popular opinion, cruises aren’t only for newly weds and the almost dead!  I have only cruised on Celebrity Cruises, but there are many lines, each of which is slightly different in focus, so there’s one designed for you.

2. Connect with experienced cruisers, though do this selectively. The biggest online forum is Cruise Critic, where you can lurk to your heart’s content and find out every piece of information you want from cruisers, or you can contribute, make connections and meet up in real life to share excursions and travel arrangements.

Online research gets you more accurate and timely information, but there is so much of it, you will need to learn good information filtering techniques to stay sane, and you will need to quickly learn who of your online buddies is making sense, and who are just a little odd! CruiseMates is another online forum worth checking out, with good reviews and articles.  Don’t bother buying speciality books about cruising, as they seem to be out of date once they are published – save your book buying for guide books about destinations.

A Sea Moment

A Sea Moment

3. If you can possibly afford it without mortgaging the house again, get a veranda stateroom/cabin. The image that drew me to cruising was of me sitting on the veranda, reading a book, watching the sea ripple by, feeling a gentle breeze and just being there in the moment.  That moment has happened on every cruise so far.

4. Choose a large table with 8 or 10 people  if you have fixed seating dinner.  For me, part of travel is meeting new people, and your tablemates will usually provide great conversation. It’s easy to change tables if you decide to, or to eat somewhere else – food on ships is available 24/7 and you will never go hungry. You will probably put on weight as a result, so a regular exercise routine (walking or the gym) on the ship is definitely required.

5. Surrender yourself to the experience as soon as you walk up the gangway to the ship. For me, that’s the point where I leave my reality behind and I move to travel mode (except for the phonecalls from children of course!).  You can do nothing except sleep and eat and do tours, or you can be completely occupied until you are exhausted.  You can be alone on a ship of 2000 people (yes, really), or you can be with people all the time – that choice is up to you.

I knew nothing about cruising until I decided I wanted to go to the Inside Passage, and I’ve since discovered that there is a whole cruising world out there waiting to be tapped but hidden unless you consciously decide to go there.  And, my last piece of advice, go there when you are planning your next trip and I think you will be pleasantly surprised!

Two travel publicationsfor this sort of article (three more to come) are:

  • Cruise Mates: Paul Motter, Editor in Chief, editor@cruisemates.com – I’ve already got a similar piece published on Cruise Mates, but I’ve learned a lot more since then, and will maybe submit this piece as an update, and
  • The Age newspaper: my local newspaper here in Melbourne, Australia.
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Aug 31
Talkeetna Mountains Alaska

Talkeetna Mountains Alaska

When I was clambering up the side of what our guide called a ‘hill’ in the Talkeetna Mountains in Alaska in 2004, I wondered if this travel thing was such a good idea. Being home curled up on my couch seemed a much better idea than puffing and panting my way to the top of what I called a mountain. But, of course, it is the challenges you overcome along the way that build the total travel experience.

When I made it to the top of that hill/mountain in Alaska, I was pretty tired but very pleased with myself.  This hiking was probably the most physically demanding thing I’d done, and was only done as part of keeping my side of a bargain with my husband. My desire to cruise the Inside Passage could only be achieved by agreeing to go hiking with my husband first, and while the experience of sitting alone of top of a mountain in Alaska is a rare one, and one I’ll not forget, I’ll never go hiking again.

Hubbard Glacier

Hubbard Glacier

Now cruising – that we have done twice since Alaska, and we are now planning our fourth journey. Less physical challenge is involved certainly. The experience needs to be designed carefully to avoid the sensation of disembarking in an port with nearly 3000 other people and overwhelming the locals. But, seeing Hubbard Glacier from a ship and watching and hearing it calve was a travel experience I’ll never forget.

For me, travel is a reminder that there is more to our planet and our global culture than what we have here in Australia. It’s also about linking past and present, so going where we can see civilisations past is always a motivation for decisions about destinations.  But, it’s also about a break from the busy-ness of reality, and making the space to see and experience new things beyond my day-to-day life. Each travel experience is cumulative – the more I see and do, the more I appreciate the need for tolerance in the world and the more I understand that, despite apparent differences, we are all just people trying to do the best we can in our little part of the planet.

San Gimignano Towers

San Gimignano Towers

My favourite places include Pompeii and Ephesus – the power of civilisation past – and yes, the top of that hill in Alaska – the power of me! I, like most others I am sure, enjoyed Tuscany and our week in San Gimignano. Paris was a short trip for work, and a place to be revisited one day, and I feel very comfortable every time I visit the United Kingdom.

The next trip is a cruise around the Baltic, and then we plan to head for the Galapagos and Macchu Pichu.  Of course, the only issue for this trip is whether or not we should hike the Inca Trail – this time, I think I will wait for my husband at the top, and let him have that experience all to himself!

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